Mantra

I can only control my intentions entering a conversation and my reaction coming out of it.
I do not need to be demeaned. That is a fair boundary and I am right to leave a conversation where there is no respect of my position as her mother.
It is okay to disagree. We are two different people and have two different sets of values.
It is not okay to give him my time or effort if it won’t yield results. Summarize and walk away.
He is my coworker in the business of raising our daughter. He is not my boss. He does not understand all the facets of my position. Nor can I understand his.
His digs are insecurities or concerns expressed dysfunctionally. The concerns are valid. The dysfunction is not.
I only have to answer concerns that involve parenting. Everything else isn’t his domain.
He doesn’t own my truths. I do. I am good at this parenthood thing and my instincts got me this far. I am alright.
He owns his own feelings and narrative. I did terrible things to him. When I look at our history, it boggles my mind that I am the villain in his narrative. IT IS NOT MY JOB TO DISENTANGLE IT.
It is okay to stop talking if he doesn’t respond to my boundaries. It is okay to set boundaries. And I have to defend them until he recognizes that they exist. Boundaries matter.